Why do narcissists always think they’re correct?

Narcissists have never had experiences related to trust, empathy, compassion, friendliness or anything similar. They are stuck in their own way of thinking. They are close-minded.

Consider unconditional and conditional love. Unconditional love means that a person’s value does not depend on successes and that everyone is valuable by default. Conditional love means that a person is worthless when unsuccessful and worthy when successful. Both of these ways of thinking are useful and an open-minded person is able to understand both of them. Narcissists, however, only understand conditional love bec

Narcissists have never had experiences related to trust, empathy, compassion, friendliness or anything similar. They are stuck in their own way of thinking. They are close-minded.

Consider unconditional and conditional love. Unconditional love means that a person’s value does not depend on successes and that everyone is valuable by default. Conditional love means that a person is worthless when unsuccessful and worthy when successful. Both of these ways of thinking are useful and an open-minded person is able to understand both of them. Narcissists, however, only understand conditional love because they have never figured out the other way of thinking. There lies the problem.

When narcissists see people that are thinking in the unconditional love paradigm it appears stupid. Those people are goofy and degrade themselves and laugh about it. It does not make sense to narcissists. When narcissists compare themselves to others they see themselves as better than most people. Narcissists end up believing that they are special and unique and superior. That is why they always think they are correct.

My mother and younger brother, both covert narcissists, were very much “always right”. I feel this is one of the most frustration aspects of living with or working with any flavor of narcissist.

I can only surmise that narcs do this because they are incredibly insecure people, with little to no self-esteem. They also absolutely loathe people who are intelligent, happy, positive and successful…in fact they more accurately fear these people because they realize right away that they can never be like that (even though they would love to be like that). That’s usually only their own feelings though…

My mother and younger brother, both covert narcissists, were very much “always right”. I feel this is one of the most frustration aspects of living with or working with any flavor of narcissist.

I can only surmise that narcs do this because they are incredibly insecure people, with little to no self-esteem. They also absolutely loathe people who are intelligent, happy, positive and successful…in fact they more accurately fear these people because they realize right away that they can never be like that (even though they would love to be like that). That’s usually only their own feelings though…of course they are capable of achieving anything just like every human being, but for some reason they seem to have a self-inflicted emotional, psychological and intellectual block that prevents them from experiencing life on this level.

What I feel this means is that they have to bring everyone down to their level, and attack people who are capable of living life to its fullest (through smear campaigns, put downs, triangulation and psychological projection). And whenever they find themselves in a confrontational situation with someone whom they loathe (rarely in front of others though for fear of being proven wrong), they will try hard to be always right, presumably to demonstrate that they are superior to that person…even if they are so obviously wrong :-).

So yes, whenever you have the misfortune of interacting with a narcissist and they detect in you that you are intelligent, happy, positive, successful, insightful, and intellectually curious, you will become the target of their insidious nature, plus that of their flying monkeys. And with covert narcs they will typically attack you in secret, behind your back, usually through smear campaigns and triangulation etc. Deep down they’re really just bullies, and if you (like me) just don’t have the time to deal with bullies (or any lower form of human being like this ) on a regular basis, then your only alternative is to put as much distance between you and them.

No one needs that in their life. We all need to learn how to deal with it of course because it is inevitable that we will run into that from time to time, but we most certainly don’t need to be in close contact with that sort of person, be it a friend, acquaintance, or even family.

It’s not just narcissists, although it especially applies to them.

There are those who conflate having a wrong opinion with there being something wrong with them, which inhibits their admitting they’re wrong, even to themselves. These likely lack ambivalence, meaning the ability to hold apparently contradictory ideas such as that a person can have both good and bad qualities. If having a wrong idea is perceived to be a bad quality, which is an idea a narcissist is particularly likely to have, that would be a problem, as narcissists (those with narcissistic personality disorder) very much lack a

It’s not just narcissists, although it especially applies to them.

There are those who conflate having a wrong opinion with there being something wrong with them, which inhibits their admitting they’re wrong, even to themselves. These likely lack ambivalence, meaning the ability to hold apparently contradictory ideas such as that a person can have both good and bad qualities. If having a wrong idea is perceived to be a bad quality, which is an idea a narcissist is particularly likely to have, that would be a problem, as narcissists (those with narcissistic personality disorder) very much lack ambivalence.

The lack of ambivalence induced narcissists to pigeonhole people, including themselves, as being either “all good” or “all bad,” referred to as splitting. Narcissists are, understandably, strongly inclined not to see themselves as “all bad,” which explains a lot of their behavior when one realizes that for a narcissist there’s no such thing as a little bad.

The narcissist compartmentalises everything - every person and situation is sorted into different boxes and placed on the shelf, and they are not to mix and they are not to ask the narcissist to be taken off the shelf.
This compartmentalisation also allows the unaware narcissists to lie and believe their own lies. The narcissists that are unaware they are narcissists operate purely situation-by-situation. Something happens, they assert control, and that situation no longer exists. The narcissist is unconsciously in control of this compartmentalisation process, so they are able to edit or disca

The narcissist compartmentalises everything - every person and situation is sorted into different boxes and placed on the shelf, and they are not to mix and they are not to ask the narcissist to be taken off the shelf.
This compartmentalisation also allows the unaware narcissists to lie and believe their own lies. The narcissists that are unaware they are narcissists operate purely situation-by-situation. Something happens, they assert control, and that situation no longer exists. The narcissist is unconsciously in control of this compartmentalisation process, so they are able to edit or discard these situations completely if they want. If you accuse the narcissist of doing something, they have the ability to claim they didn’t do it and believe it. They are also able to edit that situation in a way that absolves them of accountability and makes them correct and believe it happened the way they say it did.

Control. It is always about control. They are the smartest person in the room, and must be seen to be. Even if that is nonsense, they will still believe it, which is quite astonishing. I have seen an experienced financial wizard lectured by a redundant marketing exec narc on how to do their job better. I have heard narcs claim to be fluent in three languages when they could barely manage their own. They weave a fantasy life for themselves where they are smart, handsome and very popular, as well as rich and much envied, when in fact they are on their uppers and have no friends. It is narc world

Control. It is always about control. They are the smartest person in the room, and must be seen to be. Even if that is nonsense, they will still believe it, which is quite astonishing. I have seen an experienced financial wizard lectured by a redundant marketing exec narc on how to do their job better. I have heard narcs claim to be fluent in three languages when they could barely manage their own. They weave a fantasy life for themselves where they are smart, handsome and very popular, as well as rich and much envied, when in fact they are on their uppers and have no friends. It is narc world, and it bears no resemblance to reality. It is yet another reason to avoid narcs- it becomes very annoying having to listen to their nonsense. Please learn about narcissism. Read one book, that is all it will take to learn everything you need to know. I always recommend Prepare to be Tortured- the price you will pay for dating a narcissist- AB Jamieson, Amazon. The clue is in the title. Good on the red flags too, so you can make sure you never fall for another narc.

WHY YES! Yes they do, they believe their in their own little world where they are THE BEST and Better than EVERYONE, And they should have everything and should be treated like everything. So in their heads they believe that they are Right. For example, If a Narcissist’s friend gets attention, and the Narcissist gets mad and Ignores or shames the Friend, They’ll be like “I should be the one with the attention because I’m better than them.” And they believe they are right. Since they have very little conscious.

Yes! Of course they do and that is why they they are called narcissists! That is why I dislike medcal students because after three years peering into a lecture theatre they think they are Doctors but have NEVER had hands on experience with the reality of humans and the real practicality of medicine. As a RN in charge of A/E In Birmingham UK I experienced some major medical hiccups with med students posted to A/e. One of my major concerns was walking past an examination room with a female med student talking to a patient,,,,,,,when I looked this patient and med student intervention I walked in

Yes! Of course they do and that is why they they are called narcissists! That is why I dislike medcal students because after three years peering into a lecture theatre they think they are Doctors but have NEVER had hands on experience with the reality of humans and the real practicality of medicine. As a RN in charge of A/E In Birmingham UK I experienced some major medical hiccups with med students posted to A/e. One of my major concerns was walking past an examination room with a female med student talking to a patient,,,,,,,when I looked this patient and med student intervention I walked in and told the med student off! This patient was having an eplipetic seizure and actually bashing his head on the wall, biting his tongue, looked cyanosed and was seriusly clonic, She had no idea whatsoever what was pysicallly wrong with this patient and was still expecting a normal response from him./ her When I pushed her out so that i could assist the patient she still looked like she thought she/he was doing the right thing and looked dazed and confused and told me “ I am studying medicine I know better than you because you are just a nurse” I tested her and she had no come back…………This is what i call a narraccist that thinks they know better than anyone else but refuses to believe that sometimes some people do actually know better for the time being.

The short answer is: Yes. But. Everyone always thinks they’re right.

Do you go around thinking, “I know such-and-such isn’t true, but I am going to believe it, anyway?” No, you think the things you believe are “right”—or you would believe something else.

The difference is that narcissists refuse to change their position even when directly confronted by irrefutable proof that what they believe is factually incorrect. Although even this alone doesn’t necessarily mean someone is a narcissist—there are close-minded people who are simply stubborn about changing their positions or beliefs, and mentall

The short answer is: Yes. But. Everyone always thinks they’re right.

Do you go around thinking, “I know such-and-such isn’t true, but I am going to believe it, anyway?” No, you think the things you believe are “right”—or you would believe something else.

The difference is that narcissists refuse to change their position even when directly confronted by irrefutable proof that what they believe is factually incorrect. Although even this alone doesn’t necessarily mean someone is a narcissist—there are close-minded people who are simply stubborn about changing their positions or beliefs, and mentally ill people who are suffering from cognitive dissonance. But always believing you are right in every situation—and not ever questioning that—is indeed a symptom of Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

Because they believe they have to be. So, if they are ‘the greatest’ (out of necessity to be ‘something’ they choose ‘greatest’), then it stands to their reasoning that they can not be or afford to be wrong. To them, it's the fastest route to self-validation on a regular basis.

I must say I am not a specialist in this area, just read a lot on the personality disorder as my dad struggled with it. I worked hard to be healthier and not adopt his struggles.

They are always right. If you do not believe it, just ask them. Over the years I had several pointless conversations with my narcissistic wife over inconsequential things that I knew far more about where she insisted that she was right. One time she actually said, “why can't you just let me be right”. Uhm I can't ‘let’ you be right when you are not

Because they know everything, if you suggest something to them they no a better way, they think so highly of themselves that its impossible for them to believe that anyone else can be as intelligent as they are. They are also always the victim, they never are the cause of the problem. Never. Its always the other person that has wronged them. They believe they are some kind of saint.